I’ve Since Stepped Into My Truth, Says Nigerian Lesbian And LGBT Rights Activist, Pamela Adie

Pamela Adie

Cross River State-born lesbian and LGBT rights campaigner, Awhobiwom Pamela Adie is set to wed her partner soon.

Pamela, who was one  married to a man but came out as gay in 2011 to the shock of her family and friends.

Sharing her throwback photo taken 9 years ago, she wrote:

Pamela Adie

“This was taken 9 years ago while on vacation in Vancouver, Canada.

I was “dating” this very nice guy who loved me and wanted a future with me. He talked about kids, life with me, the car he would buy for me, how we’d travel the world, and live happily ever after.

Funny thing is, I never disrupted his dream. I was trying so hard to buy into his narrative of how good we were together. I wanted to see his dream of us together as a happy family but I just couldn’t.

He soon noticed that I didn’t share his aspirations when I started to withdraw.

He’s a great guy. Now married to a lovely woman and they have beautiful kids. And we’re still good friends.


As it was with all the men I tried to date, it was never them.

It was always me living in denial and trying so hard to be straight.

I am no longer about that life

I have since stepped into my truth.

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